Before searching for ways to get your ex boy/girlfriend back, you must make sure that you genuinely WANT your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back. If you’re coming off of a bad breakup, it is possible you’re thinking with emotions instead of rationally. Take a timeout and think about how your life would be without your ex boyfriend/girlfriend. Think with your brain instead of your heart. Will it be better? Will you be better off without your ex boy/girlfriend? Or do you still think your life will be incomplete without your lover?
After taking some time to reflect, if you still want to get back together with your ex, here are some ideas:
Do not pester your ex. It’s counterproductive to send your lover message after message. Nor will giving your ex boy/girlfriend gifts. Such behavior will only annoy your ex, and make you appear desperate or even pitiful. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, so one of the best ways to get your ex boy/girlfriend back is to take a break from him/her for awhile.
Before contacting your lover again, build up your self-esteem. Whatever it takes, find value in yourself and build on it. Many people let themselves go after a split. This is one of the worst things you can do. Make sure that the next time your ex sees you, he or she will be impressed.
Do not let your lover know you’ve been moping and try not to do it regardless. Have your Facebook and Myspace status set on something positive. Be positive around mutual friends so that if your ex boyfriend/girlfriend asks about you, she/he will find out that you are doing fine. If your ex boy/girlfriend thinks you are happy, then questions about whether the split was bad will linger. Even if the breakup was bad and does bother you, try to keep that to only close, trusted friends.
Try to be the person she/he fell in love with to start with. Why was your lover attracted to you? Think about the qualities that made you attractive to your ex and bring them back.
Invite your lover to a casual get-together, preferably involving mutual friends. Bring a couple of mutual friends along so that it won’t feel like a date. Do not be needy towards your lover or overly-attentive. Equalize your attention amongst those at the get-together. Above all, try to make your ex boyfriend/girlfriend comfortable.
While you shouldn’t bombard your ex boyfriend/girlfriend with messages, it’s okay to send one every now and then. Just send a casual, “how’s it going?” or “Just thought I’d say hi.” message. This will bring your lover into a conversation without seeming pushy.
Don’t make it obvious that you are trying to win your ex back – be subtle. No matter your technique for winning back your ex boy/girlfriend, being subtle is always a part of the trick. Don’t make it obvious to your ex boyfriend/girlfriend that you’re only trying to get his/her attention.
Don’t get involved in a new relationship of your ex’s, if he or she has one, especially by allowing you to be the object of his/her cheating. Don’t take your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back unless he or she breaks up with the other person first. Being a part of your ex’s cheating on a new fling hurts everyone. Do you really want to be part of the lies?
If you want the magic of making up, you’ll follow these ideas. Even if you don’t end up reconciling after everything is said and done, at least you will have more confidence in yourself thanks to these tips!
